How should we modify the anal sex we see modeled in porn to best suit an in-real-life couple? So, I don’t have exact figures for hetero or homosexual couples, but there is data suggesting that a good percentage of gay men would rather give and receive blowjobs than have anal sex. have you had anal once in the past year, or do you have it regularly? I’ve seen studies suggesting that 65 percent of men have anal sex, and others that suggest the figure is less than 50 percent. We occasionally, as in once a year, hear from women who say they have anal as often as vaginal, but that’s unusual.Īs for gay men, statistics vary widely, and studies aren’t always consistent in how they collect data-some might be looking at different levels of frequency, i.e. vaginal intercourse, they’ll say maybe they have anal one time for every five or ten times they have vaginal intercourse. But if you ask them how often they have anal vs. There are some couples who enjoy anal sex a lot, maybe 10 percent to 15 percent of all straight couples.
A Q&A with Paul Joannides, Psy.D.ĭoes the popularity of anal in porn reflect reality in both homosexual and heterosexual couples? Here, Joannides talks us through the realities of making anal both as safe and as pleasurable as possible. If anal turns you on, you are definitely not alone, but its prevalence doesn’t change the fact that it’s the riskiest sexual behavior in terms of HIV and other STDs. The CDC reports that the number of heterosexual men and women who’ve tried it vacillates between 30 and 40 percent (oddly, the CDC doesn’t report on how many homosexual men have tried it, except in a statistic that weirdly combines it with oral). The book is amazing not just for its straight-up factual information on practically any aspect of sex you can think of, but also for its easy, nonjudgmental, at-times humorous tone. But the reality about anal is not, actually, that everyone’s doing it, says research psychoanalyst and author Paul Joannides, Psy.D., whose comprehensive book on sexuality, The Guide to Getting it On!, is used in college and medical school sex-ed courses across the US and Canada. When using a search engine such as Google, Bing or Yahoo check the safe search settings where you can exclude adult content sites from your search results Īsk your internet service provider if they offer additional filters īe responsible, know what your children are doing online.First it was shocking, then it was having a cultural moment, now it’s practically standard in the modern bedroom repertoire-or so a quick scan of any media, from porn to HBO, will tell you. Use family filters of your operating systems and/or browsers Other steps you can take to protect your children are:
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